Struggling with your style and getting dressed? The issue has a root cause that’s keeping you stuck. To have a wardrobe that gives you confidence and reflects who you are now, you need to address this root cause. Otherwise, you’ll only treat the symptoms, which look different for each woman.
Read on to find which of the underlying issues are at the core of your clothing problem.
But first, here are some of the symptoms that show up for women:
One woman is frustrated and rushed because she spends her morning trying 10 things before finding something to wear.
Another feels bored and uninspired by her typical go-to outfit which isn’t working anymore.
Then there’s the woman who feels guilty about all her unworn clothes. She passes over 80% while getting dressed, and still ends up wearing the same old thing.
So whether you’re wasting time in the closet, settling for clothes that don’t fit anymore, or feeling limited by your wardrobe, the problem is the same.
You’ve changed, and your clothes have not.
It seems like an easy solution to change your clothes. But you don’t because of the root cause.
The 3 Root Causes Of Your Clothing Problem
1. You Have A Different Body
I’ve styled thousands of women for the past 30 years, and most clothing problems come from a body change. You know you’re dealing with this when your clothes don’t fit or look right anymore, and you’re frustrated! Garments you used to love become snug in certain areas, or don’t drape how they did before which makes you self conscious and unsure. Of course it’s difficult to decide what to wear when you feel like this! And it explains why you waste so much time getting dressed.
2. Your Taste Has Evolved
Another big underlying issue is when your personal preferences shift, and your clothes don’t match who you’ve become. Your wardrobe is no longer you! This means that your go-to outfits — like skinny pants and a big sweater — don’t work. But you keep wearing them because you’re insecure about what else to try. You don’t know what’s in style, and you’re worried about looking dated. This is why you play it safe and feel like you could be dressing better.
3. You Have A New Role
The last major clothing problem stems from a new role. Similar to when your taste evolved, a new role results in clothing mismatches. But the difference is that a new lifestyle usually accompanies the new role. It could be a new job, a different work situation (like back in-office, or fully remote) or a shift in your personal circumstances like recently retired or divorced. Regardless, your clothes feel wrong because they’re better suited for your previous lifestyle.
When you show up to your new role in old clothes, you aren’t conveying your current identity. It’s confusing! You know your old clothes aren’t right, but you don’t know what dressing for your new role looks like. This is why you pass over most of your clothes when getting dressed, and end up in the same old thing.
The Underlying Clothing Problem Of Your Style
You haven’t changed your clothes because you’re uncertain about what else to wear. Shopping won’t help, as it will only lead to buying more of the wrong clothes if you don’t know what you need.
The answer is to embrace the change.
Accept your new body.
Own the evolution of your personal preferences.
Fill the shoes of your new role.
BE WHO YOU ARE TODAY.
Once you’ve embodied the changes, then it’s time to start working through your clothes and clear out everything that doesn’t support your style and the person you’ve become.
The Guided Closet Cleanout Challenge is coming! Join me and learn how to edit your wardrobe, the right way, so you have less clothing, but BETTER OUTFITS for your next chapter! We start September 23, 2024.
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