Are You A Hater, Greedy Or Narcissistic? (Here’s How To Manage That)
According to Buddhism, we probably have traits to all of them.
In my favorite podcast, which I’ve been listening to a lot lately, the running theme is suffering, or more precisely – how we cause our own suffering. It comes down to the three poisons — anger, greed and delusion. They’re at the root of unhappiness.
Curious to know which one of these poisons is most pervasive in your personality?
In the podcast it was broken down like this:
When you enter a new room, do you…
A. Immediately critique everything. You think to yourself Ugh, those pictures are so tacky. And how awful is that rug. OMG, I’d die living in here, it’s so clutteredd!
B. Immediately want everything. You think to yourself I want that couch. I must have those lights. I’m going out later today to get that stuff.
C. Not notice a thing. You think think to yourself What is that weird stain on my shirt? How did it get there? I must’ve spilled my coffee. Goddamnit, I”m such a slob!
If you answered A — congratulations, you’re a hater!
If you answered B — salutations, you be greedy!
If you answered C — you’re just delusional!
Hello, my name is Elysha and I’m a hater. When the podcast was describing the qualities of choice A…I was like – OMFG, that’s Me!
But then it went into describing greedy, and I was like – wait…I kind of get like that too. Especially when I’m shopping for a job. I want to buy everything for myself.
And yes, I have my moments of delusion as well…getting super caught up with how I look etc…
I’ve got each of these charming qualities swimming around in my personality, causing me to act unskillfully.
What’s a woman to-do to manage all that?
Well according to the podcast (Buddhism) and in yoga, it’s about making space so that all these parts can exist. We practice mindfulness for self awareness so the next time we notice our judge-y anger coming up, or going nuts in the greed department, we can pause and choose a different reaction.
So when you walk into the room, rather than think UGH, this room is ugly. You pause. Of course that thought will come up, but there’s nothing to-do about it. You just let it come…then go.
Knowing the antidotes to these emotions may also help.
When feeling anger. Be compassionate.
When feeling greedy. Be generous.
When feeling delusional. Be wise with your words and actions.
I know, way more easier said than done.
In yoga this morning the teacher said something which could also be useful when subjected to the poisons — set an intention, then embody it. So when I start to get judge-y about terrible decor, I can set the intention of kindness. Then try to embody it…let it be my essence. I’ll probably have to keep reminding myself of the intention because oh how quickly we forget, particularly when confronted by our stuff.
But it’s a practice.
And remember, we don’t practice for perfection.
We practice to be better.
Here’s the link to the podcast incase you want to hear more.