Lessons On Listening From My Kindergartner

Lessons On Listening From My Kindergartner

Earlier in the school year, G came home talking about whole body listening.
It’s this (explained by G):

Whole Body listening is when you sit down, and keep your hands in your lap.
You watch Debbie (the teacher) and pay attention.
You don’t talk and you don’t move.
You think about what she is saying.

It’s like whole living and mindfulness wrapped up in one!

And how great is it that kids are learning this so young?
But wait–are adults actually doing it?

We live in a multi-tasking world where people don’t think twice if someone stares at their phone while participating in a conversation.
I’ll often try to respond to the kids while washing dishes.
Is it really necessary to listen with the whole body? Aren’t our ears enough?

I guess that depends on what you’re listening for.

If you’re listening to learn or connect — then no, our ears aren’t enough.
See, sound isn’t the only thing there is to listen to.

I happen to get a very good read on people when we meet, and it has little to do with what they say.
I gauge their vibe. I pay 100% attention to all they are.

I guess that’s listening with my whole body.

Ready to try? With the next person you meet:
Turn your body towards them.
Stay still.
Look with your eyes
Tune in with your ears
Think about what you hear.

Let me know how it goes!

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Elysha Lenkin
Elysha Lenkin helps women express themselves through fashion so they look current, feel confident and stay true to themselves. For over 20 years, she's worked on commercial shoots styling women in all shapes, ages and sizes including Carrie Underwood, Tina Fey and Serena Williams. Now her focus is to make fashion fun and approachable for real women so they show up feeling like superstars in their lives.


  1. Mazigrace says:

    Brilliant! I have been thinking a lot about “listening” lately since I met a gal who couldn’t let you get a word in edgewise, and when you did she would interrupt you. It was very frustrating. So, I just patiently listened to her realizing that she was just in her head.

  2. To be a good listener is an amazing skill..one I’m working on all the time. Thanks so much for your comment!

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