What used to be relegated to the crunchy, self-help section of the book store is now covered everywhere from Vogue to the New York Times T magazine. BE YOURSELF is what the headlines say making it loud and clear — authenticity is in style! But how do you style yourself authentically?
Unfortunately, itâ€™s not as simple as the bold faced cover lines coming at us from the newsstand. The message, Be You is in direct contrast to the mixed messages surfacing from the assortment of editing, cropping and filters permeating our socials. The look of authenticity is unclear. Is it Beyonce who woke up like this? (Maybe.) Or Kate Hudson fish gaping on the red carpet? (Unlikely.)
It seems authenticity is on a spectrum. While posting a no make-up selfie veers towards the truly authentic, the multiple attempts at finding the right pose along with capturing the most flattering light swings that pendulum towards the month long prep that goes into getting red carpet ready, the opposite of authenticity.
This delusion of whatâ€™s real (no makeup, bedhead hair?) is clouding our perception, and impacting our ability to be ourselves. How much of myself can I actually be may become the question.
The answer depends on what feels comfortable for you. Where on the spectrum does your look of authenticity sit? Are you a let-it-all-hang-out kind of person who thinks TMI stands for Tell Me It-All, and uploading your latest botox experience on Youtube feels fine. Or do you prefer to reserve your beauty secrets for your inner circle, if anyone at all.
Thereâ€™s no right or wrong answer here. Itâ€™s how you roll. Your style. Your individuality. Your version of who you want to be, and how you want to share it.
The thing is, in order to get on the authenticity spectrum, there must be authenticity present. It’s not about baring all to the world, it’s about stemming your style from your true self. When Beyonce woke up like this, had she really just woken up like that? I don’t know. And it doesn’t matter because styling yourself authentically is for you, and only you. Who cares what others think or say? What matters is that you’re okay with how you’re showing up in the world, and that it’s aligned with who you want to be.
And if all those mixed media messages are confusing you on how to style yourself authentically, here are some stylist tips to integrate today.
Be Inspired By Others, But Don’t Copy
In NYC, I am surrounded by interesting women with head-turning style. Often, I’ll stop to fully check out what someone has got on and see how she’s wearing it. I stash her style in my brain which helps me create my own looks later on. Similar to looking at fashion bloggers or magazines for inspiration — see what they’re doing, and then make it your own by bringing it into your life with your clothing, your preferences and your character traits. The goal is use the inspo to help find something that feels like you.
Accept What You Got, Even If You Think It’s Ugly
This is a toughie. I don’t know many women who like their ugly bits. Myself included. But acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like them. It only means you must make room for them to exist. See them as they are. Acknowledge they’re there. Then let them be. And by the way, we’ve all got them, and most of us are fixated on them. Myself included. As someone who always wanted super straight, fine hair, I was given a frizz-laden puff-centric do. No matter what cut I get, or how I style it – it never lies flat on my head. I tried bleaching it blonde to see if that wasÂ more fun, but itÂ left me with a puffy, dried out do. When looking in the mirror, consider your flaws as part of who you are. They’re what make you unique. And unique is interesting.
Own Your Sh!t
You know that phrase when given lemons, make lemonade. It’s like that. Rock your style as only you can. For me, it means switchingÂ up my attitude to big hair, don’t care. The best style comesÂ fromÂ not just being yourself, butÂ by flaunting it! GetÂ into the flow of who you are, so you canÂ show up with confidence which ultimately is the key to styling yourself authentically.
How do youÂ style yourself authentically?
(Images: Adrian Alston for TheProducer.com, Man Repeller instagram)