If working with a fashion stylist or wardrobe consultant conjures up images of designer dresses reserved for red carpet looks, it’s time to expand your vision.
While it may seem luxe to have someone help you shop and pick out the right clothes, the real work of a stylist is giving confidence to her clients. And that’s not something only the rich and famous deserve.
How many times during the day do you find yourself tolerating something because deep down you don’t believe you deserve better.
I do this a lot.
In our apartment we buy a big bottle of conditioner. And as soon as it becomes too difficult to get the product out, DH (husband) is done. He moves on to the next bottle.
I, on the other hand, keep trying to extract every last morsel of that old bottle. I’ll turn it upside down (and leave it like this) for all the conditioner to settle to the top. I’ll bang it against the wall to loosen it up. I’ll keep harassing it until it’s empty.
Why do I feel compelled to finish the old bottle? Because I believe it’s a waste to throw away the remnants. And if you want to dig a little deeper, it’s because I believe I don’t deserve the brand new bottle until the old one is gone.
This may seem silly, to go so deep with a bottle of conditioner, but it’s really about honoring your worth.
If you’re tolerating a subpar feeling when you get dressed each day, it’s the same thing as me with the conditioner. You deal with it because deep down you don’t believe you deserve any better.
So you stare at your closet that has nothing to wear, and salvage something that’ll get you dressed and out the door.
Or perhaps you look at yourself with dissatisfaction, and don’t see how it could be different. You’ve become so accustomed to settling that you don’t believe it’s possible to dress any better.
Celebrities hire stylists because their image is everything to their career. Their success is based on people liking how they look. You may not have the same stakes involved over your appearance. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to feel confident in every outfit.
Committing to your style means you’re taking control of your presentation, and the way you show up. You’re putting in the effort which tells others that you care about how you look. And while this outward acknowledgment can boost your self esteem, it’s the inner awareness of your own self worth that’s the true prize.
Click play to watch the video where I explain the unexpected benefits of working with a stylist which go beyond expert feedback and shopping picks.
Have you worked with a stylist before? If yes, how was your experience?
And here’s how the fashion industry killed my confidence.