The other night DH and I had the best date night ever — we saw Radiohead play at Madison Square Garden!
There was so much to love about this evening, but the best was being able to lose myself in the music which peaked during “Karma Police” when the sing-along from the crowd of 18k really drove the lyric in: For a minute there, I lost myself, I lost myself. For a minute there, I lost myself, I lost myself.
As I sang, deep in the dance, I realized I wasn’t lost at all — I was in my body, 100% grounded in who I am. I was absolutely connected to myself!
So this idea of losing myself in the music was never really about actually losing myself. It was about going deeper into myself. I used the music to connect, or get back to being me.
Knowing which tools bring us deeper into ourselves is useful information. This awareness unlocks the ability for access.
So when I’m feeling disconnected, or lost- I know that a Radiohead show will bring me back. But unfortunately, for me, everyday can’t be a Radiohead show. That’s just not reality. So I need to call on my tools, or practices, to bring me back to myself.
You too have your things that bring you back to yourself. It could be a dress that automatically gives you confidence. Or it’s a song that takes you to that place of connection. Maybe you love cooking. Or hiking…nature is a great way to get back to yourself. It’s about engaging with the tool or practice at a deeper level, so extraneous thoughts fall away.
Start paying attention to the things that make you most feel like you. Notice what you’ve done to get to this place — was it finding alone time? A means to express yourself – like drawing or dancing? Become aware of all those activities, then do them.
How do you do it? What’s your go-to for connecting to yourself?
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Hi Elysha,
Lose yourself could mean lose the baggage about yourself. A deep concentration or flow state as as Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls it is where this alignment happens. A great feeling, be it dancing, yoga, meditation, or running. Anything really if you can manage it.
An apt photo to illustrate your article. xo
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Lose the baggage of oneself…this is definitely the goal! It’s a shedding of sorts which ultimately reveals the true self.
Thank you, Terry.