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Go Read: Going Gray

    Go Read: Going Gray | | Mind Body Soul Stylist
    Go Read: Going Gray | | Mind Body Soul Stylist

    I have no intention of going gray.

    This book caught my attention with the subtitle: What I learned about Beauty, Sex, Work, Motherhood, Authenticity, and Everything Else That Really Matters. That’s what I wanted to read about.

    To my good fortune, the ebook was available immediately on the NYPL site so I grabbed it, and got it on my phone. After a quick skim, I realized that perhaps a story about going gray wasn’t so interesting. I am, after all, quite committed to my monthly root touchups

    Then the hardcover copy arrived. The before and after photos of author Anne Kreamer are pretty remarkable. She looks way better with gray hair! My curiosity was piqued.

    It all started with a photo. Kreamer came across a picture of herself that served as the wake up which evolved into both an article for More magazine, and later the book. It details how her experiment of going gray turned into a major life changer based on not only her age and appearance, but who she really was.

    In one second, all my years of careful artifice, attempting to preserve what I thought of as a youthful look, were ripped away. All I saw was a kind of confused, schlubby middle-aged woman with hair dyed much too harshly.

    She quickly discovered that an exploration into authentic aging is quite radical in this day and age of our youth obsessed culture.

    The anti establishment statements that certain styles of hair used to represent – long hair or Afros for men and women in the 60s, Mohawks in the 70s and 80s, Day-Glo colors in the 90s – have become period pieces. Today it seems as if the most provocatively political statement a woman can make with her hair is to let it be naturally gray.

    So she delves into the research. Posing with both brunette and gray hair, she goes into the online dating world along with real-life singles bars to find out which version fares better. She also consults with others including men, stylists, and head hunters to help determine if gray hair really does equal granny status as far as the world is concerned.

    In the end, Kreamer finds not only acceptance, but grace in her aging process.

    I’ve actually begun to internalize and understand for real that it isn’t so much how we think others think we look that is important; it’s how we feel. I know, I know, every women’s magazin, talk show, and self-help book says the exact same thing, but I needed to experience it firsthand to believe it.

    What I liked about this book was the emphasis she places on self expression. Sure, we all want to look our best as we age, but ultimately we need to decide how we will do this. Do we fight every wrinkle? Perhaps. More importantly, we figure out where our priorities lie, and do our best to live in alignment with those.

    We don’t have to decide between being unshaven, unstyled, and all natural or beind dyed, Brazilian-waxed, Botoxed, restylaned, and surgically enhanced. We each have to find our own comfortable place.

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    4 thoughts on “Go Read: Going Gray”

    1. Hi Elysha,
      A friend of mine told me about this book after I already had made the decision (and have been making the decision) to go gray naturally. I mentioned to her how much thought I put into this decision; as it was not a permanent decision, and I might change my mind again. So, this is the second time in a few months of being reminded about this book. As soon as some room opens up on my reading plate, I might consider getting this book. The excerpts here are helpful in my decision making process. Self expression is very important.
      Have a lovely day, Ka

    2. Hi Ka, self expression is important! Interesting this is the 2nd time you were reminded of this book. I will say after looking at the before and after photos of the author (pre + post gray hair), I was completely lured in to read her story.
      I hope you are well!

    3. I love your book recommendations, Elysha. I’m going to check this one out too. For years I highlighted my hair but haven’t done so in about a year. My greys are starting to come in and there’ s something kinda poignant about embracing this process… challenging too, for sure. The cultural drive to stay/look youthful is certainly in my psyche. But grey could be fun. I have some cool visions of doing a silvery blond lavender thing at some point. 😉 Much love! xo

    4. Ohhh, I love how that sounds – silvery blond lavender thing! And I’m glad you enjoy the book recs. I hope you’re well, Aleya!! Sat nam?

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