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How To Keep Going When The Going Gets Tough

    image03nnc-3ccDo you ever have those moments when you feel like life is giving you the shit end of the stick?

    It’s kind of happening over here right now.

    About 2 weeks ago DH started having severe discomfort in his upper body. After numerous consultations and Drs, it turned out he has a herniated disc. Though it may sound serious, it’s actually quite common. But that doesn’t make it any less of a pain in the neck – literally.

    Then I get a call from the school the other day. NYC public schools suck for a few reasons — constant budgetary constraints, a lottery / highly competitive admissions policy, and head lice. We were most recently burdened by the latter.

    And to top it all off, this is the week my grand jury duty begins. So that could put me in lockdown for 8 hours a day.

    So to say we’re starting out our Summer in carefree spirits wouldn’t really be the case. But rather, we’re getting through it as best we can.

    Here are the essentials to make it through to the other side intact:

    1. Keep It In Perspective
    When I was heading to the laundry room holding 3 Ikea bags of bedding and pillows, I ran into our neighbor. It was obvious what my situation was — bedding in the laundry room isn’t a good sign. But my neighbor, 
    his son is going through radiation. Seeing him reminded me to keep things in perspective. It was as if he was placed just outside the laundry room so I could keep my focus. Talk about signs…

    2. Practice Empathy
    When I last watched Orange Is The New Black there was this whole bit about empathy. The inmates were role playing in a drama class setting. As entertaining as the show was, it also put empathy on my mind. I don’t know how DH feels right now because I’ve never experienced a herniated disc. So I can only try to imagine how he’s suffering. It won’t alleviate his pain, but it will help both of us if I’m more understanding of his situation.

    3. Say The Mantra – This Too Shall Pass
    Because at the end of the day, life goes on. We may not be kicking off our Summer of Love (instead it’s more of a Summer of Lice), but things will change. This too shall pass. So the next round can come.

    How do you roll through the punches when times get tough?

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    16 thoughts on “How To Keep Going When The Going Gets Tough”

    1. girlgatheringwisdom

      Having had experience in the cycle of life waves……crap happens – problem solving – issues improve – some joyful moments – coasting – new crap happens – and so on……I rely on the confidence that I have lived through crap before and so why can’t I just live through it again. Along the way one can pick up some good stuff: empathy, compassion, resilience.

    2. I Have to admit, I snorted when I read the opening line of your post today, Elysha. The shit end of the stick. Yep. It happens. Bummer that it’s at the beginning of summer. Lice, yep. A familiar battle. Very common in Australia, the school wouldn’t bother calling. Herniated disc in the neck. Ouch! Grand jury duty? Man. It can only be up from here!

    3. Oh, honey. So sorry to hear. That sure sucks. You did such a great job w/ the post. Make it a walking stick or a sword. Whatever works.


    4. SirenaTales

      Gahhhh!! Sorry to hear of your troubles, my friend. I definitely try for the keeping things in perspective mode. I find, as you did with your neighbor, that there is usually someone placed in my path who reminds me of that. I also dig your using humor–laughter is such great medicine.

      And, of course, I always attempt to remember to MOVE, especially dance, as it moves energy and stress through me…making room for the new. As Alice Walker said, “Hard times require furious dancing.” Dance jam, anyone?

      Hugs and love to you, Elysha. Hang in there!

    5. Thank you, ST. My yoga practice has been key…so important to keep the body moving so it can clear out the junk!! x x

    6. So sorry to hear that you are having one of those times. My grandma used to say “This too shall pass.” It works so I use it and just try to flow. I’m sending you lots of love and positive energy 🙂

    7. Completely agree, Olivia. It’s the wake up call that actually wakes us up. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

    8. Melissa

      I’m in the same boat! Sending you lots of good vibes for an energetic shift!

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