Your relationship status with your style is ALWAYS on display. It’s your vibe.
…The way people respond to you.
…The way you move through life.
So if you feel like your clothes aren’t YOU, or you’re never dressed right for any of your occasions — here’s what to know:
>>>>> You don’t have a clothing problem.
>>>>> You have an intimacy issue.
You’ve lost touch with your style!
CLOTHES COME AND GO.
Your style is forever. It’s your life partner — here to love, honor and support all you do.
That’s why this relationship with your style needs to grow and evolve right along with you!
After 30 years of styling thousands of women, I’ve identified the 3 key stages in this relationship.
Understanding where you are in this journey isn’t just about clothes — it’s about reconnecting with your style as a powerful ally that strengthens your sense of self so you move through life with confidence and purpose
Click play to watch the video where I dive into the 3 stages of your relationship with style. Or keep reading below!
The 3 Stages In Every Style Partnership
HONEYMOON
Think back to that relationship when you couldn’t get enough of the other person. You wanted to spend all your time together and learn everything you could about each other. That’s what this stage feels like. You are falling in love with your style. While everyday isn’t rainbows and sunshine, overall you’re curious, engaged and excited. Take advantage of this stage to stretch beyond what you think is possible by experimenting and having fun.
CHANGE
This is when “I have nothing to wear!” really sets in.
Something significant has shifted in your life — whether it’s changes in your body, family, or career — and your style gets tossed onto the back burner. Clothing loses its fun, and becomes more of a burden or chore.
Often at this stage, confusion and frustration set in as you and your style start to grow apart. You don’t know how to be together anymore. You’ve disconnected from your style, and your closet feels like a stranger.
Many women get stuck here in The Change phase, lacking the courage, energy, or desire to move their relationship with style forward. But staying here will only make room for self doubt to take over.
Another common trap?
Shopping.
When you feel directionless with your style, it’s easy to think new clothes will fix everything. But buying more only complicates things. You haven’t yet cycled through the stages to truly understand what your style needs — so new pieces often pile on more frustration, leaving you with a closet full of clothes that don’t fit or make you feel like yourself.
CHOICE
This is the final stage where you must make a decision: Will you reconnect with your style? Or will you step away from the relationship?
If you choose to step away, that’s completely understandable. I’ve spoken with many women who’ve made this decision because their plates are simply too full to give their style the attention it deserves. If you choose this route, ask yourself WHY. Is it because the changes in your life demand time, energy, or money right now? If so, it may be worth setting a timeline for when you’ll be ready to revisit and reinvest in this relationship.
If your priorities have shifted and you’ve lost interest in your style, that’s okay too.
Just make a choice.
The key is to avoid staying stuck in The Change without clear intention about your next steps — that’s how you end up in an energy draining rut.
SAYING YES TO YOUR STYLE
If you decide to move forward and reconnect with your style, it’s like any relationship you care about — you’ll need to recommit, give it attention, and nurture it!
When you’re in unison with your style, your clothes embody this union. You feel more alive in your expression, and more at ease in your skin.
You become effortless in what you wear.
It’s during The Choice stage when women decide to bring me in for support to get their relationship with style back on track quickly — and with better results!
This month only, I’m offering Style Connection calls to get you back into the power of being in true alignment with your style. Join me on Zoom to dive into your unique situation and walk away with fresh wardrobe inspiration, practical styling ideas, and a clear plan to move forward with purpose. Book now and save $200!
Click here for the details and to schedule your call!
I’m in the CHANGE cycle of my dressing!! I’ve already been in the Choice!!! I made one and it’s NOT giving in!!! I’m meant to be stylish!!! I’m meant to be me!!!
Love this, Natalie! What steps have you taken to be stylish?
I can identify where I have gone through all three stages in my life. I’m back in the honeymoon stage because I worked with Elysha. I’ve been in the honeymoon phase for three years now! One way I stay in the honeymoon phase is by continuing to follow Elysha on her social media which keeps me inspired.
Laura, the love you have with your style comes through, and it looks like confidence!