I hear from a lot of women who have gained weight and they hate how their clothes fit. It’s a difficult situation. They’re uncomfortable, and always asking “What’s my style when nothing feels good?!”
But here’s the deal, women’s bodies change. All the time. They have kids. They get older. They go into quarantine and find themselves in the kitchen more often than usual.
The changing body is normal.
It’s when you fight the change that becomes a problem.
Then you get stuck. You try to wear your old clothes in your old ways. And it doesn’t work anymore.
Or you completely give up and wear leggings everyday. And you don’t want to wear leggings everyday!
You feel uncomfortable. Fat. Unhappy.
To feel comfortable in your clothes and know that you look good, even when your body has changed, you must adapt.
This doesn’t mean give up on your weight loss goals, if you have them. It means you must find a way to be happy with how you look now.
Click play to watch the video where I explain how to adapt your style to accommodate your changed body so you don’t have to wonder, what’s my style. But instead you feel confident in your clothes.
And keep reading for the 3 steps to adapt your style to accommodate your changed body
If your body changed awhile ago, it’s time to let go of the clothes that no longer fit. There’s no need to hold onto things that make you feel bad whenever you see them. Especially if they’re serving as a reminder of what no longer suits you.
If your body changed since the pandemic, you don’t have to let go of your clothes. But you do need to let go of what you thought you SHOULD look like. Whether it’s coming from what you see from others, and you’re comparing yourself to them. Or it’s your own belief about how a woman like you SHOULD look
When you carry this burden of perfectionism because you don’t look how you thought you should, it makes you feel worse. Also, it’s impossible to attain.
I had a client who was frustrated because her pants were tight. She didn’t want to buy an entire pants wardrobe. Understandably. But she needed a solution for feeling better in her clothes immediately. If she didn’t accept her situation, she’d never feel better. She’d stay stuck in resistance. It’s hard to move forward when you’re resisting.
To help accept her current body, she came up with three words that described how she wanted to feel in her clothes each day. Then when she got dressed, she chose clothes that helped her have those feelings. She was able to keep moving forward by focusing on how she wanted to feel instead of how she didn’t want to feel.
Once you let go of your idea of how you SHOULD look and accept your current body, you’re ready to begin again.
Now you want to move on and figure out what will work best for your changed body. Ideally, you’ll come up with a few fresh outfit formulas that flatter. For one of my clients who gained weight in her stomach, we introduced her to high waist pants. She loved how it felt to have the fabric over her belly, like a protective shield. This also eliminated her muffin top.
There’s plenty of styling tricks to downplay specific body parts while highlighting other areas that you still like. Look outside yourself for inspiration. While I always appreciate a woman who knows what’s not for her, I see how this creates a block from trying something different. It leads to rejecting an idea without fully exploring it as an option. The best outfits often come together from the unexpected!
Your style is your way of being. It’s who you are and how you move through life which is always changing! If you need a wardrobe revamp, the first place to start is to gain clarity on your current body, taste and life. Once you have this information, you can move forward creating a style that suits you today. Need help getting started? Check out Tailored to You, a one-on-one POWER session that shows you what to wear, what looks good and how to dress with CONFIDENCE. Go here to learn more.