When I got invited to the Grammys, I felt tremendous pressure to wear the right thing. It was a major event. A special occasion that I’d never been to and I wanted to feel incredible.
I hated my outfit. It was a bummer, but I learned so much about getting dressed for big events. And that’s what I’m sharing here.
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Back to the Grammys.
Rather than having fun and finding an outfit that felt exciting…
I played it safe.
I went with a plain and simple black tuxedo. There’s nothing wrong with plain and simple except that’s not me. I held back on what I really wanted which brings me to the first lesson. I didn’t know what I wanted.
I’m not a rock star— obviously. So of course I’d never go for something over-the-top like a Lady GaGa meat dress or Jlo deep diving Versace number. But I had no clue what I WOULD wear. I never thought about it. Instead I settled for plain and simple tux because I didn’t know what else to get.
Now whenever I have an event, I take time beforehand to think about how I want to look, and more importantly how I want to feel. I didn’t do that for the Grammys. That’s why I ended up as plain and simple.
As soon as I walked into Madison Square Garden, I knew I made a bad choice. My all-black outfit blended in. The production crew, the servers, and most of the men were wearing all black, like me. My plain and simple look took a turn towards invisible and boring. The feeling amplified at the after-party where I sunk even deeper into the background with the low lighting and dark furniture. That’s when I decided I’d never wear all black to a special occasion again.
Notice how I said ALL BLACK. The truth is that black is easy. Plus it’s chic. And there are more options when searching for black garments. The trick is to accent with vibrancy. Find fun accessories like a bling-y belt. Or layer on strands of chains. Spice up the all-black with elements of interest…pieces that get noticed. I call this the cherry on top. It’s the star attraction of your look— the MVP. Hair pieces and statement shoes make excellent cherries on top. My black tux needed this!
Special occasions and parties are opportunities to be bold with your style. It’s a chance to step outside your comfort zone and be a bit extra. I didn’t think outside the box with the black tux. I went with what’s comfortable. Of course, you want to be comfortable, but stretch yourself so you feel excited.
What do you have in your wardrobe that can add electricity to your look? Or if you’ve got a fabulous LBD, how can you liven it up with shoes and accessories?
I’m all for a classic look—like a black tux.
But bringing in an unexpected twist would’ve helped get me in the mood to celebrate.
And that’s what these special occasions are for, right?
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