This whole notion of resolutions is a fantastic concept — it inspires life changes while setting the tone of positivity which makes a beautiful foundation for growth. But I find most resolutions are really just that…a concept. They’re these wishy washy constructs that have little foundation as they float around for a few weeks before finally drifting off into the waste-pool where all resolutions eventually end up.
Every January, I’ve got these grand ideas on how I’m going to be better than before, yet they rarely see the month of February. I’m all gung-ho, ready to go, and then the steams fizzles out after a few weeks.
Usually it’s because I got busy. I mean, who really has time to implement all these resolutions? Once my calendar gets booked up, there’s no room left to submit guest blog posts, or go through every book shelf and closet in the apartment to clear more space. The intention was there in January — backed by the rest of the intentions set within the world, and then POOF – they’re gone. By March, there’s not even a glimmer of their existence.
But 2016 is going to be different. This year, I’m going to skip the resolutions, and put purpose behind my plans. No more float-y ideas on home improvement. No more half baked proposals for guest blog posts. Here’s how to make sh!t happen.
1. Set goals.
Resolutions are just a decision to do something. Goals give a real sense of purpose. So rather than resolve to write more for other people, I’ll create my list (Oh how I LOVE a To-Do list!) of who I’m going to target along with the topics I’m going to write on.
2. Set a realistic timeline.
Yes, life is what happens when we’re busy making plans which is why my timeline is going to be padded to accommodate life, when it happens. This way, when a full day of writing gets interrupted by GL home sick from school — I’ll have plenty of time left in the month to get it done.
3. Get started.
Sometimes I get so caught up in my lists and plans, I color code them — make them all pretty, that it turns into a procrastination project. There’s nothing wrong with a pretty list, if it helps motivate (which it 100% does for me!) but enough is enough. No need to spend 45 minutes on the color wheel looking for variations of dusty rose (guilty). Just get to the task. Start where you are, and begin.
4. Be accountable.
This is a toughie for me. I’m such a solo worker that to get others involved kind of cramps my style. And it has to be the right person…sadly, a husband or bestie may not make the cut. Find someone to share goals with so it can be an exchange…you both check in on each other. Think of this person as your coach who wants to see you win, yet won’t be soft when you fu*k up.
5. See the future.
I’m not advising to hire a tarot card reader (though I’m all for that, if you’re feeling the call.) This is actually a technique I use with my styling clients when they shop for themselves. I ask them to figure out exactly where they would wear the item that’s about to be purchased. It has to be a concrete plan, something in the calendar. This way they know the new item will be worn, and there’s a future for this garment that lives outside the closet. Do this for your goals. If you’re trying to eat healthier, invite a friend to dinner at the new vegan place. (This could also work well to tie in #4!) Give your plan a life outside of your head so it has a better chance of staying alive.
What’s your plan for 2016?